Falling in love is what all of us have done multiple times! But staying in love & achieving mature couple goals is what is the real deal! As we grow older, how are we growing as a couple? Are we maturing or are we still in the ‘you did, I didn’t’ phase?! Things can get out of hand real quick & if you don’t want to sink, hold tight & change the course. Take time, think, figure things out, try to understand other’s point of view & then decide your final judgement. Sometimes, love dominates your anger & if you truly love them, just forgive & move on.
Intimacy is one thing, but it shouldn’t be the only thing holding 2 people together. Your relationship depends on what you are capable of doing outside your bedroom!
Here are a few for you to check up on!
- FRIENDSHIP –
Becoming friends is a huge step! You might know someone intimately but to bond with them on a non-intimate level is a whole new thing! Your understanding about each other deepens & your bond becomes stronger when you get to know each other’s context – past, relationships, ideas, ideologies, beliefs etc.
- FROM DIVA TO PYJAMA-
Early in relationship you try to get ready & look picture perfect in front of each other. This might work for short durations but for the long run, find yourself someone that you can be comfortable with in pyjamas too! After sometime in a relationship they know the real you & you don’t need extra fittings to make you look more attractive.
- CHILL OUT –
Post few weeks/ months your date spots also change. Decked up dinner dates change to Netflix pyjama parties! At the end its all about comfort!
- LOOKING OUT FOR EACH OTHER LIKE FAMILY –
You become a new home to each other & start looking out & caring like family! Any problems & you to run to your partner hoping to get it resolved. Your daily schedule revolves around them & you never want it to end.
- THE CRAZY SIDE REVELATION
You own your secret life & guilty indulgences without the fear of being judged anymore! You can do face masks on yourself, on each other & you never felt so free to be yourself! In fact, they tag along with you for it! 😉
- YOUR ULTIMATE FOOD PARTNER –
Hogging is no more a “thing” you are bothered about! Weekends are all about indoors Netflix & pizza parties! Ladies… get yourself a man who feeds your when you are HANGRY & doesn’t call it PMSinggg!!
- MOTIVATION –
Apart from being an emotional support, you can look up to them for motivation & impetus. When you feel low & dejected they make you realise your worth & lift you out of your darkness. They are your new inspirers & make sure you achieve your goals!
- YOUR ADVENTURE CRAZY FREAK PARTNER –
Everybody has a crazy streak & who better to explore it with other than your love?! Going on adventures… discovering new secrets about the world & about each other. It opens up new genres to every relationship that would be unexplored staying at home!
- KNOWS YOU IN & OUT –
When you open up your soul to the person, they know you…the real you; beneath the accessories & beyond your physical beauty. You no longer have to explain yourself & every action of yours! Any sudden rage or dislike…. They already know the reason.
- FEEL SECURE –
You suddenly feel secure, even when they aren’t around you. Trust becomes an important factor & you absolutely enjoy being secure in your new “Committed” status!
- KNOW EACH OTHERS FRIENDS LIKE YOUR OWN –
Friends are our second family & meeting the friends is a huge deal. But, becoming friends with each other’s friends & knowing them like your own is real #goals!
- LITTLE THINGS THAT MATTER –
Few things never age… like holding hands while crossing the road, that ‘butterflies in the stomach’ feeling when you meet them after long; that staring at your love in awe! These are things that are priceless.
- OLD SCHOOL ROMANCE –
Taking out some time & revisiting your old memories… Going out on old school dates, candlelight dinners & spending some quality time with each other. Making new memories… Your dates have definite & fixed repetitions in your schedule now!
- LEND A HAND & FINISH TASKS –
You get so involved in each other’s lives that you become a part of their schedule & adjust your schedule & help each other in completing the other tasks so you can get more time for spending it together!
- YOUR PERSONAL CRITIC –
Flattery may happen in first few phases of a new relationship, but as time passes you get your own personal critic that give you honest reviews & you can always look up to them for that! They tell you if your are wrong & surprisingly you are no longer offended! Their opinions become positive reviews which you want to take for self-betterment!
- HEALTHY DISCUSSIONS –
Maturity in a relationship comes when you can have healthy discussions instead of arguments. Letting ego go is a major step for anyone…that is when you no longer feel the need to hold on to it & open up your minuses, yet don’t feel insecure! You can sit down & resolve differences without losing your temper!
- ENTHUSIASM & ZEAL –
Over time, the spark of a new & exciting thing slowly vanishes! But, to keep it going, you keep trying new things that excite & scare both of you & by this you open up new undiscovered chapters within yourself.
- MILESTONES –
Setting productive goals together! Be it individually or as a couple, set goals & targets & try to achieve them! Progress, grow & learn as a couple! Your & your partner become a team & can work with each other in perfect sync!
- PREDICTING & COMPLETING TASKS & SENTENCES
After spending so much time together, you tend to finish things before your partner can even ask for them. Small gestures make a great difference & keep the Zing alive!
At last, talking is no more a boring thing. You want to share everything with each other, each detail & the other person equally inquisitive about it! Talking is the main backbone of any relationship & it helps maintain a healthy bond.